I once read a book where a group of singles actually plotted out when the services of every church in their community (and the surrounding communities) started, and would manage to attend up to three services a day. I would love to say they did this because they simply could not get enough of learning about God. But they didn't. They did it so they could rate each church according to its population of singles.
At the time, this made me laugh and shake my head. Now I actually begin to comtemplate it.
I know people in surrounding communities who constantly suggest that I and my single friend come and check out their churches. Of course, by "checking out their churches" what they really mean is "come check out the singles at our church--we'd love to hook you up." After reading this novel as a teenager, my first thought was actually how much fun that would be. But then I had a realization.
Just because someone goes to church does not mean that they are what I am looking for. I had that realization this fall. I had changed churches because I felt that God was calling me in another direction. Ironically enough, as soon as I left the church they had an influx of single men start attending. My first thought was "Should I go back?" but I realized I couldn't. Just because a man is single and goes to church does not mean that he is the man I am looking for. Call me picky, but I prefer to say I'm not desperate. When it comes to faith, I want a man who is willing to think deeply and not just accept what is said from the pulpit because it is said from the pulpit. I want a man who is discerning. My father constantly tells me that I'm better off being single and waiting for the right guy, than rushing into a relationship simply because I don't want to be single. I suppose I'm beginning to agree with him.
Will I stop visiting other churches? No. Heck, I may even enjoy going to them, trying them out, and yes, seeing if they have an single men. But will I jump into anything simply because that guy goes to a church? No.
Such is the life of a Christian single.
At the time, this made me laugh and shake my head. Now I actually begin to comtemplate it.
I know people in surrounding communities who constantly suggest that I and my single friend come and check out their churches. Of course, by "checking out their churches" what they really mean is "come check out the singles at our church--we'd love to hook you up." After reading this novel as a teenager, my first thought was actually how much fun that would be. But then I had a realization.
Just because someone goes to church does not mean that they are what I am looking for. I had that realization this fall. I had changed churches because I felt that God was calling me in another direction. Ironically enough, as soon as I left the church they had an influx of single men start attending. My first thought was "Should I go back?" but I realized I couldn't. Just because a man is single and goes to church does not mean that he is the man I am looking for. Call me picky, but I prefer to say I'm not desperate. When it comes to faith, I want a man who is willing to think deeply and not just accept what is said from the pulpit because it is said from the pulpit. I want a man who is discerning. My father constantly tells me that I'm better off being single and waiting for the right guy, than rushing into a relationship simply because I don't want to be single. I suppose I'm beginning to agree with him.
Will I stop visiting other churches? No. Heck, I may even enjoy going to them, trying them out, and yes, seeing if they have an single men. But will I jump into anything simply because that guy goes to a church? No.
Such is the life of a Christian single.
